by Dotted Green Sparrow
It is because we are created in the image and likeness of God who is Love that we are able to enter into a loving relationship freely. Such grace! And one of the most valuable loving relationships we can enter into is friendships. Some lasts a lifetime, some don’t. It’s sad when friendships end and make us ponder on whether it was truly a real kind of friendship to begin with.
I have the soul of a fighter and I believe in going the extra mile for the sake of friendships. Yet, sometimes, because relationships need to flow both ways and (when) it doesn’t, we need to be able to walk away. Times when we are taken advantage of or when there’s a conflict that grew to unavoidable proportions it blocks the natural flow of love in that relationship. And because it is imbedded in our nature as living loving beings, when love doesn’t flow it sucks the life out of us.
I’ve learned that relationships do not die a natural death. They are murdered. Murdered by pride, ego, selfishness, lies, deceit, un-forgiveness, insincerity, etc., but these are still just tools, its people who use them. And when our so-called friends use them on us, we know it’s time to walk away. That decision to walk away some would call it giving-up. But, in the greater scheme of things, it could simply mean choosing life (in the fullness of its meaning). Sure it’s an unfortunate choice to make, but the beauty of the challenges in friendships is that no one really loses; we all just either win or learn.